Category: Friendship touching or friendly touching

*No Photo, Aggressive body language, Authoritative body language, Confident body language, Dominant body language, Friendship touching or friendly touching, High confidence body language, High confidence hand displays, Leadership body language, Remotivating gesture, Social touching

Body Language of The Wrist Hold Handshake and The Upper Arm Grip Handshake

by Chris • October 30, 2014 • 0 Comments

Body Language of The Wrist Hold Handshake and The Upper Arm Grip Handshake

Cue: Wrist Hold Handshake and Upper Arm Grip Handshake

Synonym(s): Upper Arm Grip Handshake, Handshake With Arm Clasp.

Description: a) The wrist of the other person is grasped with the left hand during an otherwise normal handshake. b) A political-type handshake that is normal except that the opposite hand reaches up to grasp the upper left arm just above the elbow or even the shoulder.

In One Sentence: The wrist hold handshake is a political handshake which aims to build strong bonds and alliances.

How To Use it: Use wrist hold handshake only if you are a high powered position on other high powered individuals. Others will be taken by surprise. When done properly, you can create a more intimate impression.

Context: Business.

Verbal Translation: “I’m shaking your hand while holding your wrist to show my desire for a close and more intimate connection with additional control in a business relationship.”

Variant: See Country Handshake (The), Cold Dead Wet Fish Handshake, Double Gripper Politician Handshake or Double Hander (The), Short Grabber/Finger Grabber Handshake, Oddball Handshake, Palm Up, Palm Down and Palm Even Handshakes, Stiff Arm And Thrust Forward Handshake, Death Grip Handshake, Wrench Forward Handshake, Undershaker Handshake, Wrist Hold Handshake, Wrist Hold Handshake and Upper Arm Grip Handshake, Limp Fish Handshake, Teacup Handshake, Arm Twister Handshake (The), Firm handshake, Fist Bumping.

Cue In Action: When the leader of two countries met, one president shook hands while grabbing the other’s wrist, and the other president grasped his shoulder. Each expressed a higher level of intimacy than just a handshake on its own.

Meaning and/or Motivation: Both the wrist hold handshake and the upper arm grip handshake is more common for politicians than ordinary people.

It is designed to build more intimacy and show desire to care, but also control. It is therefore much more powerful than an ordinary handshake. Its aim is to build strong bonds and build strategic alliances between high powered individuals.

In the wrong context, these handshakes will seem insincere and off-putting so they should only be used with extreme caution and in the right context.

Cue Cluster: Expect to see plenty of dominance cues such as arms akimbo, military man stance, chin up, palm displays, controlled gesticulation and facial expressions, dominant eye contact, upright postures and puffed out chests.

Body Language Category: Aggressive body language, Authoritative body language, Confident body language, Dominant body language, Friendship touching or friendly touching, High confidence body language, High confidence hand displays, Leadership body language, Remotivating gesture, Social touching.

Resources:

Aström, J ; Thorell, L H ; Holmlund, U ; D’Elia, G. Handshaking, personality, and psychopathology in psychiatric patients, a reliability and correlational study. Perceptual and motor skills 1993, Vol.77(3 Pt 2): 1171-86.

Bohm. 1997. Effects of interpersonal touch, degree of justification, and sex of participant on compliance with a request. The Journal of social psychology. 137: 460-469.

Chaplin William F.; Phillips Jeffrey B; Brown Jonathan D.; Clanton Nancy R.; Stein Jennifer L.; 2000. Handshaking, gender, personality, and first impressions Journal of personality and social psychology. 79(1): 110-117.

Fisher, J; Rytting, M and Heslin, R. 1976. Hands touching hands: affective and evaluative effects on interpersonal touch, Sociometry 39: 416–421.

Fromme, Donald ; Jaynes, William ; Taylor, Deborah ; Hanold, Elaine ; Daniell, Jennifer ; Rountree, J. ; Fromme, Marie. Nonverbal behavior and attitudes toward touch. Journal of Nonverbal Behavior. 1989. 13(1): 3-14.

Floyd, Kory. All Touches are not Created Equal: Effects of Form and Duration on Observers’ Interpretations of an Embrace. Journal of Nonverbal Behavior. 1999. 23(4): 283-299.

Fisher, J; Rytting, M and Heslin, R. 1976. Hands touching hands: affective and evaluative effects on interpersonal touch, Sociometry 39: 416–421.

Frumin, Idan; Ofer Perl; Yaara Endevelt-Shapira; Ami Eisen; Neetai Eshel; Iris Heller; Maya Shemesh; Aharon Ravia; Lee Sela; Anat Arzi and Noam Sobel. A Social Chemosignaling Function for Human Handshaking. eLife 2015. 4:e05154
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Gurevitch, Z. D. The Embrace: On the Element of Non-Distance in Human Relations. The Sociological Quarterly. 1990. 31(2): 187-201.

Dolcos, Sanda ; Sung, Keen ; Argo, Jennifer J ; Flor-Henry, Sophie ; Dolcos, Florin. The power of a handshake: neural correlates of evaluative judgments in observed social interactions. Journal of cognitive neuroscience. 2012 24(12): 2292-305.

Greenbaum, Paul ; Rosenfeld, Howard. Varieties of touching in greetings: Sequential structure and sex-related differences. Journal of Nonverbal Behavior. 1980. 5(1): 13-25.

Guéguen, N. (2007). Courtship compliance: The effect of touch on women’s behavior. Social Influence, 2, 81-97.

Guéguen, Nicolas. Nonverbal encouragement of participation in a course: the effect of touching Social Psychology of Education. 2004. 7: 89–98.
http://bodylanguageproject.com/articles/a-touching-way-to-encourage/

Gueguen, Nicolas. Handshaking and Compliance With a Request – A Door-to-door Setting. Social Behavior and Personality. 2013. 41(10): 1585-1588.
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Larsen, Knuds. ; Leroux, Jeff. A study of same sex touching attitudes: Scale development and personality predictors. Journal of Sex Research. 1984. 20(3): 264-278.

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http://bodylanguageproject.com/articles/handshake-open-body-language-powerful-nonverbal-effect-brain/

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*No Photo, Childlike playfulness, Comfort body language, Friendship touching or friendly touching, Open body language, Rapport or rapport building, Social touching

Body Language of The Oddball Handshake

by Chris • October 27, 2014 • 0 Comments

Body Language of The Oddball Handshake

Cue: Oddball Handshake (The).

Synonym(s): Secrete Handshakes.

Description: Handshake that often include bumps, slaps, flicks and clicks.

In One Sentence: The oddball handshake symbolizes camaraderie and friendship.

How To Use it: Create your own unique handshake to create a strong individual bond with another person whom you share common interests. Players in sports such as baseball can benefit by creating their own handshake to bolster team spirit. Close members of cliques can also benefit since it is a shared greeting that is only known to the members involved.

Context: General.

Verbal Translation: “Let’s do a weird and unique handshake together so we can build camaraderie and friendship.”

Variant: See Country Handshake (The), Cold Dead Wet Fish Handshake, Double Gripper Politician Handshake or Double Hander (The), Short Grabber/Finger Grabber Handshake, Oddball Handshake, Palm Up, Palm Down and Palm Even Handshakes, Stiff Arm And Thrust Forward Handshake, Death Grip Handshake, Wrench Forward Handshake, Undershaker Handshake, Wrist Hold Handshake, Wrist Hold Handshake and Upper Arm Grip Handshake, Limp Fish Handshake, Teacup Handshake, Arm Twister Handshake (The), Firm handshake, Fist Bumping.

Cue In Action: The baseball player returned to the dugout and did a unique handshake for each player he met on his way back.

Meaning and/or Motivation: This is the sort of handshake your teenage son or daughter comes home with in effort to confusing the heck out of you! It’s the handshake that has you saying “You do what with what, then what?!?” It often includes bumps, slaps, flicks and clicks.

This handshake is fine amongst casual friends but please avoid this on a job interview or with other employees. It does however show a relaxed atmosphere and has its place between friends.

Cue Cluster: The body language surrounding the oddball handshake includes open body language that lacks tension, palms up, loose torsos and relaxed, smiling faces.

Body Language Category: Comfort body language, Childlike playfulness, Friendship touching or friendly touching, Open body language, Rapport or rapport building, Social touching.

Resources:

Fisher, J; Rytting, M and Heslin, R. 1976. Hands touching hands: affective and evaluative effects on interpersonal touch, Sociometry 39: 416–421.

Frumin, Idan; Ofer Perl; Yaara Endevelt-Shapira; Ami Eisen; Neetai Eshel; Iris Heller; Maya Shemesh; Aharon Ravia; Lee Sela; Anat Arzi and Noam Sobel. A Social Chemosignaling Function for Human Handshaking. eLife 2015. 4:e05154
DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.7554/eLife.05154.
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Wesson, David A. The handshake as non-verbal communication in business. (marketing technique). Marketing Intelligence & Planning. 1992. 10(9): 61(6).

Courtship display, Friendship touching or friendly touching

What Do Hugs Mean? The Different Kinds of Hugs Body Language

by Chris • October 23, 2014 • 0 Comments

What Do Hugs Mean? The Different Kinds of Hugs Body Language

Note a friendly hug by the distance between the hips. We don’t press against our friends and family members.

A more intimate hug where the hips press together.

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The hand ‘taps out’ when we wish to submit from the hug.

Cue: Hug

Synonym(s): a) Abrazo, b) Bear Hug c) Buddy Hug d) Sleepy Shoulder Hug e) Quickie Hug f) Unreciprocated Hug g) Cuddle Hug h) Squeeze Hug i) Waist Hug.

Description:

a) The Abrazo is done by pressing the chests together and engulfing the back of the other person with the arms.
b) The Bear Hug is a loving but hard and firm huge that can be done between men and women, two men, two women or an adult and child.
c) The Buddy Hug is a hug that is between friends where each person pats the back of the other.
d) The Sleepy Shoulder Hug is when two people cuddle up to one another and one person rests against the other’s shoulder.
e) The Quickie Hug is a brief hug that is brief where one or both parties quickly splits from the hug and heads off.
f) The Unreciprocated Hug happens with only one full participant. The other person usually stands stiff with their arms to their sides or barely hugs back.
g) The Cuddle Hug happens when one person rests against the other’s shoulder, usually while seated watching television, a movie or at the park.
h) The Squeeze Hug is less than a bear hug but still firm.
i) The Waist Hug happens usually while standing where one arm is wrapped around the waist of another.

In One Sentence: Hug variations help define relationships.

How To Use it: See other sections with help in applying the various hug types.

Context: General.

Verbal Translation:

a) [Abrazo] “I like you so I’m pressing my chest against you.”
b) [Bear Hug] “I really like you a lot and adore you and want to show how much I care by squeezing you tightly.”
c) [Buddy Hug] “We can be friends, but I don’t want to date you.”
d) [Sleepy Shoulder Hug] “I like you, but more importantly, I feel safe in your arms so I’m going to rest my head against your strong shoulder.”
e) [Quickie Hug] “I really need to be someplace else so let’s just hug quickly so I can get out of here.”
f) [Unreciprocated Hug] “I’m not interested in hugging you, we don’t see eye-to-eye so I’m just going to let my arms go limply to the side as you hug me.”
g) [Cuddle Hug] “I want to feel safe in your arms and so I’m snuggling up against you.”
h) [Squeeze Hug] “We have fun together, we should do this again.”
i) [Waist Hug] “We are an item, attached at the hip, and walk as one.”

Variant: There are two main variants to hugs. They are the light social hug and the intimate hug. The Light Social Hug or the Polite Hug is used for acquaintances and friends, and happens when the shoulders come together but the hips remain separated and do not press together. It is where only the minimum amount of touching is present and most certainly not the hips. In The Intimate Hug, the hips come together and press together. It signals romantic or sexual interest. It is common in lovers.

Cue In Action:

a) [Abrazo] When Dad and Son were reunited from across the ocean, they hugged each other with by engulfing each other with their arms.
b) [Bear Hug] Dad gave his son a big bear hug after picking him up from school.
c) [Buddy Hug] At the end of the date, she hugged him and patted him on the back.
d) [Sleepy Shoulder Hug] While waiting for the bus, she rested her head against his shoulder.
e) [Quickie Hug] The bus was about the leave so she quickly hugged her boyfriend before bounding off to catch it.
f) [Unreciprocated Hug] He hugged his wife, but her arms were limp, she expected an apology.
g) [Cuddle Hug] The couple snuggled up on the couch together for popcorn and a movie.
h) [Squeeze Hug] At the end of the play date, the kids all lightly hugged each other before meeting up with their parents.
i) [Waist Hug] The couple enjoyed a beautiful sunset while embracing at the hip.

Meaning and/or Motivation:
a) [Abrazo] A term originating in Latin America that describes a brief hug between men.
b) [Bear Hug] Means that a person really likes and cares for someone else and wants to be close to them.
c) [Buddy Hug] A hug that is light on intimacy hence the patting (which aims to break the hug up) but is rich in camaraderie and friendship. When in a dating context it shows that intimacy is lacking and is replaced with more friendship.
d) [Sleepy Shoulder Hug] Indicates a desire for closeness through protection.
e) [Quickie Hug] Means that people are short on time and need to be someplace else.
f) [Unreciprocated Hug] This is the cold shoulder. It means that a person is not happy and doesn’t have much in common with the hugger or is holding a grudge.
g) [Cuddle Hug] Indicates the desire to be, and feel, protected.
h) [Squeeze Hug] A tight hug showing that fun was had but it is devoid of passion.
i) [Waist Hug] Denotes two people that are an item and whom want others to recognize them as such.

Cue Cluster: N/A

Body Language Category: Courtship display, Friendship touching or friendly touching.

Resources:

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*No Photo, Friendship touching or friendly touching, Intimate touching, Open body language, Ownership gesture, Rapport or rapport building, Readiness to submit postures, Submissive body language

Body Language of The Head Touch (by others)

by Chris • October 23, 2014 • 0 Comments

Body Language of The Head Touch (by others)

Cue: Head Touch (by others)

Synonym(s): Touching Someone’s Head, Hair Ruffle, Kissing The Head.

Description: When one person touches the head of another person.

In One Sentence: Touching the head of another is a sign of dominance.

How To Use it: Touch the head of others when you believe that you have a strong bond with them and want to maintain or solidify this relationship. Never touch the head of a person you feel does not trust you as this will produce suspicion or even contempt. Intimate couples can, and should, freely touch each other and part of this involves touching and stroking areas of the face and head. A dad can playfully ruffle his son’s hair to show that they are bonded together. It is also an expression of the father’s dominance over the son.

Context: General.

Verbal Translation: “I am more dominant than you permitting me to touch your vulnerable head. You heed my dominance and are willing to trust that I will not harm you.”

Variant: The hair might be ruffled, the head patted, or the head kissed. See Guiding Body Language.

Cue In Action: a) After returning form work, he found his son playing quietly with a video game. He snuck up behind and kissed him on the head and ruffled his hair to show his affection. b) The Pope made the sign of the cross on her forehead. c) After a long day at work, he massaged her head to show affection. d) After scoring a goal, the hockey players patted each other on top of their head.

Meaning and/or Motivation: The head is a very personal and vulnerable area of the body. Allowing others to touch the head is reserved for close relatives and intimate partners. Thus, head touching is a sign of a deep bond and trust between two people.

A Dad might ruffle his son’s hair or a wife might massage her husbands head to demonstrate affection. Kissing the head is a way a mom shows her daughter that she cares and is willing to protect her.

A subordinate employee would never touch the head of his boss but leaders of religious organizations will frequently touch the heads of their congregation.

Cue Cluster: The head touch is a cue that does not require additional cues for support.

Body Language Category: Friendship touching or friendly touching, Intimate touching, Open body language, Ownership gesture, Rapport or rapport building, Readiness to submit postures, Submissive body language.

Resources:

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Guéguen, N. (2007). Courtship compliance: The effect of touch on women’s behavior. Social Influence, 2, 81-97.

Greenbaum, Paul ; Rosenfeld, Howard. Varieties of touching in greetings: Sequential structure and sex-related differences. Journal of Nonverbal Behavior. 1980. 5(1): 13-25.

Larsen, Knuds. ; Leroux, Jeff. A study of same sex touching attitudes: Scale development and personality predictors. Journal of Sex Research. 1984. 20(3): 264-278.

Lee Ann Renninger, T. Joel Wade, Karl Grammer. Getting that female glance: Patterns and consequences of male nonverbal behavior in courtship contexts. Evolution and Human Behavior. 2004; 25: 416–431.