Body Language of Patting
Cue: Patting
Synonym(s): See Hug Ender Cue.
Description: A rhythmic motion done by repeatedly applying the hand to the back, head, thigh or other part of another person’s body.
In One Sentence: Patting is a sign that one wishes to comfort through touch.
How To Use it: Use the pat to solidify and build bonds between people. A father can bond with his son or daughter by patting their back. Likewise, to offer sympathy to someone who is emotionally suffering, patting the back can help sooth. This cue reminds us of being cared for by parents so use it whenever you want to show parental support.
Avoid using patting on higher authority figures as un-reciprocated touching signals dominance.
Context: General.
Verbal Translation: “I’m trying to comfort you by patting you.”
Variant: The pat can sometimes indicate the desire to break up a hug as in the “hug ender cue.” The patting action is like that of a wrestler how wishes to submit and be released from the clutches of his opponent. See Bottom Slapping or Bottom Pinching, Hug Ender Cue.
Cue In Action: a) During a warm embrace, Mom comforted her little boy by patting him on the back. b) A friend pats the top of the forearm of her friend to show her that everything is going to be okay.
Meaning and/or Motivation: A reassurance gesture aimed at soothing and comforting another person. The pat finds itself during hugs as well as between a boy and his father who might pat the top of his head to create and maintain a strong bond.
Cue Cluster: Patting is a stand-alone cue.
Body Language Category: Stroking body language, Liking, Metronomic signals, Rapport or rapport building, Social touching.
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