Very little focus has been place on how men use nonverbal communication to signal interest. Perhaps this is rightly so, perhaps not. Women are without question the most efficient users of body language in courtship. Women are, more often the not, the choosers and initiators in relationship origination, and men are often left following. The job of women is to signal to men when it’s time to display their features and “dance” for them. In other words, women are the choosers when it comes to sexual relationships, and in the body language department, if men employ it properly, they are not much more than the chosen.
What the research fails to properly address up to date, is how men can use body language after contact has been established to build attraction with women. I have devoted and entire book to this very topic in my e-book Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language. It is a very complex issue so I can not deal with it in its entirety here, so I encourage anyone interested to pick the book up and read more extensively. In this book, I will hit on all the key features and main topics in male courtship body language that will be of interest to a general reader such as women and professionals. The male “pick-up-artist”, or women who wish to thwart male come-ons and pear into the minds of men, should read further with Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
This book was designed to be the only book you would ever need to read on body language, but in doing so, there are probably some areas that you aren’t interested in or are only moderately interested in. For that reason, don’t feel that you need to read the book in sequence and that skipping sections or chapters is necessarily a bad thing. Having said that there might be areas of study that particularly interest you, and for that reason, there are additional Body Language Project volumes to suite that niche need.
Once you get past the first few chapters, the readings become more and more optional depending on interest. By skipping chapters or sections you won’t get the full picture, or gain the fullest amount of power this book harnesses and from that which is nonverbal communication, you’re certain to gain the knowledge that you can use most in your life. Some information, for example, is more applicable as an employer, whereas other information applies most to employees. Others still will benefit from office dynamics, but for others who work outside an office, it won’t be as helpful. We can all learn something from information that doesn’t apply to us directly though so it never hurts to bank that information in case we find ourselves in a novel situation in the future. Feel free to skip ahead, or skim the photographs over, and hit areas again at a later date as your life changes. You will also be surprised by how much more information you will pick up on your second read so by all means re-read. This isn’t to say that we haven’t put a lot of effort into putting things into the best and most logical sequence though, it just means that you won’t suffer by reading it out of order. So split the book at any page, skip sections and just enjoy the wonderful photographs, it’s your book, read it how you want to!
While reading this book just keep in mind that there are quite literally thousands of nonverbal signals that can be emitted by the human body, most of which are covered herein, although sometimes just briefly. It would be entirely impossible and a very likely a futile effort to hit on every minor cue, not to mention extremely long winded and boring! Nevertheless, this book is designed not only as a primer on body language, but also the only book you will really ever need to read. The book covers more than just the major cues, it hits on more the subtle cues, context specific cues and cues that vary from person to person. This book is meant to be nearly exhaustive of all the body language out there, and meant as a stand-alone guide to reading people in all facets of life.