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Fight And Fighting Body Language As It Relates To Killer Dogs!

Fight And Fighting Body Language As It Relates To Killer Dogs!

Christopher Philip

I have a tenant with a massive scary barking dog but I’ve learned how to defeat him with body language!  It’s much more common for children to get attacked by dogs than for adults primarily because they don’t understand how to avoid eye contact.  In other words, they haven’t learned to avert their eyes from an enemy, nor are they big enough to intimidate them.  To a dog, a child appears as both a threat because they make eye contact and as easy prey due to their size.  Eye contact can trigger an attack response in animals so when being confronted, you’re much better off to look down and away, instead of staring a beady-eyed dog or even a bear dead smack in their eyes.  Head down and away, shoulders brought in to appear smaller, with arms pulled in, are all ways to avoid setting off an attack response. These submissive postures apply for more than just animal attacks, they also apply to bosses who wish to reprimand, family who wish to start disputes, or thugs in bars looking for fisticuffs.

When I approach the doorway and the tenants aren’t home, the dog will bark and growl fearlessly which is the total opposite to what happens when the owners are home where he’s pleasant and even affectionate.  When the owners are home he will even follow me around and seek to be pet.  However, when they aren’t home and I need to tend to something, he barks persistently, growls and snarls preventing me from entering.  The more I intrude into the house, the more aggressive his posture becomes.  In the past, I’ve tried talking calmly to him, opening the door slowly and giving him treats, but nothing works.

One day though I decided to run a little nonverbal experiment when I needed to get in to do an inspection.  On all previous occasions I would tried to keep the dog in the house to prevent him from running away, but this time I decided to turn the tables and use the laws of territoriality to my advantage.  Instead of entering his territory, I instead invited him into mine.  That is, I asked him to first come outside, just by one step before entering his space.   I knew there was little risk of him taking off since I was just about to enter his space, if he permitted, so he would want to usher me in so as to protect his domain.  When I opened the storm door, he as usual, started barking and snarling, but then I opened the door even more and instead of encroaching on him, I pulled backward and gave him some space.  The dog took a few steps forward onto the patio then nudged up against my leg as he turned around and re-entered the house with me.  Because I respected the dog’s personal territory and followed the rules of territoriality, he not only permitted me to enter, but even welcomed me.  Once inside, his guard was let down and his aggressive actions subsided.

Can this type of body language work on aggression when found in people as well?  Try it for yourself.  Defeat aggressive neighbours by inviting them over for a drink and snacks and see how quickly their attitudes will change.  Using the right body language can also be useful to avoid fist fights at the pub and speeding tickets!  Read more in Body Language Project: The Only Book On Body Language That Everybody Needs To Read.

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Picturing People Nude To Read Their Hidden Emotions!

Picturing People Nude To Read Their Hidden Emotions!

Christopher Philip

A useful way to appreciate how body language works and to make it appear more logical in our minds is to picture specific body language postures as they would appear if the person were nude. This is especially important since the cues have evolved under these circumstances. For example, take legs crossed versus uncrossed. How would legs spread wide open appear on a woman? How about on a man? What about a person with their legs uncrossed with their hands up behind their head slouched down in a chair? This would most certainly come across as a dominant and an in-your-face kind of posture. Now imagine this very same posture coming from an arrogant boss if he was completely nude with his genitals fully exposed!  What if he played on height differences, for example, by him standing and you sitting while he encroached into your workspace serving to display his genitals just inches away from you?  What kind of message would be sent?

(photo of the “fig leaf” posture)

While our clothing masks some of the offensiveness of these postures, the meaning is still relevant because both the postures and their meaning evolved without clothing.  Picturing people naked can also help when reading timid body language.  For example, imagine the “fig leaf” posture where the hands are cupped together or interlaced and placed over the midsection or genitals so as to cover them from exposure. 
This happens with clothes on, but our minds are hardwired to act as if we are nude and when we feel shame, guilt, timidity or shyness we cover our most vulnerable parts, whereas when we feel confident, happy, and comfortable we fully expose ourselves to the world.  Women can also be seen holding books or articles of clothing that have been removed over their chests to hide their breasts from others, especially creepy men.  The 70’s movie cliché made it nearly universal to expect women to walk around campus this way.

So next time you want to read people you feel are arrogant or timid, imagine how the posture would appear nude.  Are they covering their private areas or are they exposing them?

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