Body Language of The Hip Embrace
Cue: Hip Embrace
Synonym(s): N/A
Description: Happens when young lovers walk with arms around the hips of the other forcing their bodies snugly side-by-side.
In One Sentence: When hips touch during a hug it signals romantic interest.
How To Use it: Men and women can use the hip embrace to test the level of intimacy that is tolerated between them. A hug at the end of a date can help the couple gauge the level of interest present. If hips press tightly together, high intimacy is present, but if a large gap is maintained with hips thrust away from one another, then there is an overall lack of intimacy.
Context: Dating.
Verbal Translation: “I like you and I want to snuggle up against you while walking.”
Variant: Handholding and Arm Over The Shoulder are two intimate variants.
Cue In Action: The two young lovers hugged each others hips as they made their way across the park.
Meaning and/or Motivation: It is a moderate display of intimacy similar to the shoulder embrace and hand holding. It is more intimate than a shoulder embrace or putting the arm over the shoulder, but not as intimate as kissing, a hip-to-hip or face-to-face hug.
Cue Cluster: Watch for other courtship gestures and postures.
Body Language Category: Courtship displays, Indicators of sexual interest (IOsI), Intimate touching, Tie signals.
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