Displays Of Female Sexuality – PART II
Skin Sensitivity, Self Stroking or Auto Contact
If a woman is sexually aroused her skin will become more sensitive. This occurs because blood rushes to the surface of her skin. A woman shows others that she is aroused by lightly stroking various parts of her body. When a woman strokes her neck, wrists, upper thigh, chest, or a bare shoulder, it is a subconscious act resulting from arousal. It also, in turn, has the effect of drawing male attention to her various features. Also watch for the legs tightly pressed together and bouncing or things rubbed together while uncrossed. These can be particularly powerful signals.
Self-touching can be said to be the precursor to the touch of another. Thus, the self touch is a touch invitation, or touch prelude and a touch replacement. It is a display that a woman is mentally and physically “ready” to receive this sexual encounter. The auto contact cue says, “I’m aroused and am subconsciously stroking my body in response to the positive sexual feelings I’m experiencing.” Watch for self touching and self stroking to appear subtly and out of the conscious awareness of the woman performing the action. Like many sexual cues, it is triggered from internal emotional motivators.
This female submissive appeasement posture is done by bending forward at the waist facing away from the intended recipient such that the rump is presented teasingly. Here, the rump is presented as a sexual invitation where the woman offers herself in the passive female role. It is an overt sexual invitation as it is a nonverbal request to “be mounted.” Young girls might be seen doing this while dancing in night clubs as they grind on men teasingly. In more subtle forms, she may simply turn her backside in the direction of man and wiggle it teasingly or may “accidentally” back into a man she finds appealing. In more overt cases, women will do so while standing by rubbing or brushing themselves up against the man of her interest. She may also bend over to pick things up, but this is not reliable unless eye contact is cast in the direction of her target.
The posture has been made into fodder for movies and television as an over-the-top sexual invitation to be mounted. Bending over might be thought of as much too overt, but it often happens quite inconspicuously and quite subconsciously. Just picture the grinding and rump flaunting done by female pop artists and dial that back 90%!
Women have a knack for displaying suggestively when they know they are being watched and often act teasingly without even knowing it. Women have other tricks for being noticed such as skin tight leggings and jeans. These are also rump displays as it showcases their assets on full display in a more socially acceptable way. In this case, though, the signals are broadcast advertisements casting a wide net to men at large.
Uncrossing And Re-Crossing Legs Or Leaving Legs Uncrossed
If a woman crosses and uncrosses her legs rather slowly she is adding more to her sexual display. This is especially the case if she uncrosses and re-crosses her legs more frequently in front of an intended target. Uncrossed legs are appealing to men when she allows the inside of her inner thigh to be exposed. When the legs are uncrossed and re-crossed in the presence of men, within the right context, it implies a sexual invitation. It says “I’m sexually available and wish to demonstrate my best features through a quick flash and tease.”
Leaving the legs uncrossed altogether, while sitting or standing, or massaging them so as to draw attention to them, can ramp up the sexual invitation further. One should pay particular attention to legs that remain uncrossed leaving a gap greater than 10 inches. While legs slightly open might be due to comfort, legs open to a larger degree says that she likely has sex on the mind.
Another leg crossing variation happens when the leg is tucked under the body and sat on with the knee pointing toward a man of her interest – the “pointing knee.” This also leaves the inside of the thigh exposed and is particularly alluring when wearing a skirt – especially a short one! Tucking one leg under the other when seated can be taken as a sign of interest. It is an informal position signifying relaxation and comfort with the situation as it makes a quick escape next to impossible. This shows men that a woman is not frightened or concerned about making a quick exit.
The broadside display is a flaring of the torso and chest by bringing air into the lungs and flexing the shoulders back. This puffs the chest out resulting in the breasts appearing larger. Incidentally, high heels also have a similar effect. Not only do they correct posture forcing the hips forward and the shoulders back, they also make the calves and legs more firm and create the illusion of length – a youthful appearance.
When men thrust their chest out, it is a dominance display, but when done by women, it indicates the desire to be noticed but putting their assets on display to be admired. Women who puff out their chest are trying to secure the attention of nearby men.
Women, much like men, will perk up when they are around others they find attractive. The torso, if the shoulders are not shrugged up submissively will take on a more tight tone. The body will not sag, the stomach may be pulled in and the head kept up titled to the side in interest. When women perk up upon seeing a man, it’s a good assumption that she’s interested in courting him.
Women will dress provocatively with short skirts, tight jeans or shirts, low-cut blouse and, or, high heels. Dressing sexy is not a sexual invitation by itself, but it does give us clues to the intentions and attitudes present. In most cases, overt cleavage, short skirts and heavy make-up tells us that women are available and shopping. Women who dress sexily all the time are sending out a different cue altogether. Their baseline says that they are either always shopping and have a high sex drive, that they like male attention, or that they simply like dressing that way. Often times the overtly dressed baseline tells us that women seek male favours and male chivalry. This often goes hand-in-hand with flirty behaviour and casual sexual suggestions.
If, on the other hand, we notice extra dressiness, or extra frills or “ornamentation,” which occurs above a basic baseline, we know that a woman is probably feeling sexually receptive. Conversely if we see a lack of dressiness, we know that a woman is particularly down and unreceptive. The research supports this. Women, at around the time of ovulation, will display more sexually, they will break out their high heels, tend to dance more, talk more suggestively, and even walk differently.
While women might not be aware of the reason for dressing provocatively, most women are aware of the signals they give off to men, and therefore shouldn’t be surprise to receive additional attention when they show more skin. From a prowling male perspective therefore, it would pay back in dividends to make note of which women dress provocatively and deviate from their baseline and which women wear more frills and glitz. Tight jeans, elaborate decoration and short skirts, not only signal sexuality, but also interest in sex.
Other times, when women travel in groups, they may be influenced by the decisions of others and therefore dress to fit in, despite their underlying mood. We see this often when groups of women travel to the bar together and dress provocatively to fit into their clique. In these instances, it is important to watch for cues in cluster to determine if women are in fact sexually receptive, as indicated by their attire, or are just following the herd.
Exposing More Skin Than Usual
This is a derivative cue to dressing sexy as it a variation on the common theme. Showing more skin can happen by removing a jacket, pulling up the sleeves, or by full dress including cutoff shorts, tub tops, low cut blouses. Showing more skin without revealing too much shows that a woman is receptive and fishing for attention. When girls enter puberty, the surge in sexual hormones practically forces them to dress more provocatively. As if a switch is turned, women seek to tease, allure and excite through flesh. Watch for changes in a woman’s baseline to make this cue salient. Does she flash more skin than normal? Is she trying a little bit harder to be noticed?
During courtship, hair may be tossed, twirled, flicked, combed, or sucked on. When the head is tossed forward or backward it says “I’m sexually aroused and showing off my luscious hair by flicking and tossing it and hopefully you find that appealing.” When the head is meant to remove long hair from the face and coy eye contact is delivered to punctuate it, it can mean a sexual invitation. Hair can be removed from a band and twirled or rolled and placed on top of the head to expose the neck.
Other hair signals include running the fingers through the hair to preen it, wrapping the hair around the neck or curling it around the finger. These types of signals are done by women out of their conscious awareness as a response to inner thoughts and desires, turned into motivators. For hair play to be a sexual cue, it will be done in association with eye contact, absent of which might just be a form of self soothing due to insecurity or a practice of basic grooming.
Fondling Or Stroking A Cylindrical Object
Rubbing, stroking up and down, or rimming the edge of a cylindrical, or phallic object can be an indication of hidden sexual tension. “Object caress” indicate a desire to be touched or touch in the way in which the object is touched. The object is a substitute for actual touching. One might see a person moving a ring off and on, playing with a pen, mouthing the arms of eye glasses, tapping their fingers to the lips, rubbing the stem of a whine or beer bottle or rubbing a pen. It says “I’m sexually aroused and I’m subconsciously acting out my fantasies with this inanimate object” or “I’m rubbing this object as if it were you, because I like you and want to rub you.”
In a dating context, the phallus is a replacement for the penis and represents an intended subconscious sexual act. It is often the case that a person who strokes the object is not aware that they are doing it, but are instead driven by primitive wiring. Fondling a cylindrical object is a cue that must be anchored through eye contact to a specific person to have sexual meeting.
The Suggestive Mouth, Lip Licking And Mouthing
An increase in lip licking is due to a decrease in saliva production which is in turn caused by high stress. Conversely, high blood flow to the lips is due to sexual arousal. Both increased sensitivity and lack of saliva may induce greater lip licking. When done by women in courtship lip licking indicates sexual interest especially if done frequently, with eye contact, and in the proper context. Lips are said to imitate the female labia and licking them draws attention by both making them shinny, and also by movement – of the tongue. Lips are also licked just before kissing and can be a kiss indicator if the lips are licked while looking at the lips of another.
A woman might show interest by suggestively licking her lips, or eating and drinking suggestively. She may also lick or suck a finger after eating something. She may also continue to touch her mouth or lips or pass her hair into her mouth and suck on it. Jewelry may be mouthed or caressed, the fingertips might come to the mouth, a straw, spoon or drink may be brought to the lips for longer than usual. These serves to pacify the emotional excitement she is experiencing.
Lip licking can be used in addition to other cues of interest. For example, it can be done in combination with a hair toss multiplying the power that each signal would have on their own. It has also been documented that a woman’s lips will become larger and appear more full and swollen during times of intimacy.
Lip biting indicates that thoughts are being held back, a woman may use it in a dating context to signal that she is holding back naughty sexual thoughts. It is particularly salient when combined with eye contact or eyes dropping to his torso, genitals, or during sexually suggestive conversation.
Biting the mouth usually indicates hidden insecurity, anxiety, embarrassment, vulnerability and a lack of self confidence. However, during a sexual encounter, biting the lip, when done by women, shows that she has to deal with an idea that she must restrain. To her, sex is something that can not be taken part in overtly, she must hold back the reigns. So, she bits her lip back and holds it back by the skin of her teeth to prevent herself from indulging.
Pouting Lips or Lip Parting
Lip pouting, puckering or lip parting is best described as a kiss indicator. It happens when the lips form a pout or kiss and are pushed forward or the lips open slightly and press forward yet remain plump and full. When lip puckering is coupled with other sexual cues of interest such as strong eye contact, or eyes-to-mouth, neck titled to the side and neck displays, lip licking and self touching, it signals the desire to submit.
Sometimes the cue is barely detectable where the lips only press together slightly. This gesture is usually seen in small children but when it is seen in adult women, it is a juvenile characteristic indicating the desire to secure affection, privilege, resource, or a reward of some kind from another person. Pouting shows helplessness and lack of agency. This is the case when done by adults or children.
Symbolic Stripping Or Removing Clothing
Removing clothing says, “I’m interested in you sexually, so I’m going to take off my overcoat and expose my skin to try to get you worked up.” Removing clothing can deliver a sexual message in a romantic situation, getting down to business at work, or comfort when done around friends.
Removing a heavy shirt or jacket to be more comfortable, or loosening buttons from a shirt, or even removing shoes or dangling the shoes from the toe, all show comfort at worst, and interest at best. This cue therefore, must be read in context with adjoining cues.
Grooming And Preening
Any grooming gestures such as smoothing clothing, rearranging attire, brushing hair from the face, glancing in a mirror, reapplying make-up or leaving buttons unbuttoned are all signals of interest. They become even more powerful when done with eye contact. Preening gestures indicate that a woman is preparing herself to be admired and that they care how they are perceived by others. Any physical adjustment can be an indication that attraction is present. Women might excuse themselves from the conversation in order to groom more fully in private. If they return promptly, especially with new lipstick or fresh lip gloss then this is a sign that she has quickly adjusted herself to look her best while avoiding losing your attention. She’s also quite likely compared notes with her girlfriends and the man she fancies has passed the test.
On the other hand, if a woman grooms a man by removing lint, tucking a tag in, straightening a tie, fixes his hair or rubs his back, it indicates a desire to care, nurture and establish closeness. Grooming someone else says that we find them worthy of our attention. Touching, when done by a woman on a man, can be taken as a strong sign of sexual interest.
Preening can also indicate insecurity. Women are no different than men when it comes to the hidden emotions they deal with. Adjusting a watch, petting the hair, massaging the skin around the neck are ways that people indicate that they feel awkward and are trying to relieve some stress that they are experiencing. A person beaming with confidence will leave well enough alone and won’t feel the need to fidget, adjust, stroke or pet, so we should be careful to watch for sudden changes in preening to indicate the level of anxiety present and therefore the likelihood that submission will take place.
The Parade Or The Cat Walk
Available women often carry themselves differently than those in committed relationships. For example, they often walk with exaggerated swinging and rolling of the hips, back arched, stomach flat, breasts protruding, and head held high. The aim is to draw attention to the pelvic region. It is sometimes accompanied by a sideways glance and slightly parted wet lips which could be unconsciously exaggerated by saliva or lipstick. It is often quite noticeable once it is made conscious. Women signal this way so as to solicit men’s invitations. This is normally perceived as the “sexy walk across the room.”
Picturing this parade or “cat-walk” in the nude and you get the sense that there is an obviously hypnotic purpose to the method. Because the hips move about a center pivot, the eye is drawn front and center to the woman’s genitals which act as a beacon. Studies show us that women out of committed relationship naturally walk by exaggerating the hips to attract attention.
It’s In The Hips – Hip Tilting And Hip Canting
Women naturally have wider hips than men in order to accommodate childbirth and it is the exaggeration of the differences between men and women the makes this sexy. The hip emphasis posture is pervasive in fashion and advertising. We see women slouching or canting to one side forcing their hips out to emphasize their curves, or walk in an exaggerated way, bouncing their hips up and down as if on a pendulum.
It has been noted that even girls as young as five to six years of age will “strike a pose” by jutting their hips out to the side. While sitting or standing, a woman may subtly roll her pelvis. This suggests that its origins are innate, though it could also be mirrored from fashion and magazine advertisements. Curiously, boys are rarely seen performing this posture unless in jest, suggesting its sex specific.
Hiking The Skirt
Another rather obvious signal of interest is the skirt hike. When a woman is interested she will finger and play with the bottom of her skirt. This action will be done specifically toward a man of interest. She will make sure that he is the only one to notice and not someone else. What a woman will do is slightly raise the skirt to show a little extra leg. If a man she is not interested in happens to spot this maneuver, she will quickly force the skirt back down and avert her gaze.
Shoe Play or Removing Shoes
A cue usually delivered by a woman where the heel of the shoe is either removed entirely or partially removed and dangled from a toe. It says, “I’m comfortable in this environment and not going anywhere so I feel safe enough to remove my shoes.”
Removing the shoes is a strong indicator of comfort and agreement. It is most salient in a courtship setting when done by a woman because it is a concrete indication of her desire to stay rather than go. Removing the shoes makes “escape” that much more difficult. Shoe play also accentuates the female physic and permits her to bounce her leg up and down showcasing her legs through movement, and drawing in male gaze.
To test this idea, simply startle a woman and if she doesn’t freeze in fright, she’ll pull her shoe back on in short order! Men attuned to shoe language will be able to test an approach. If it goes sour, she’ll casually slip her shoe back on, pack up her things and be casting eyes elsewhere to establish an escape route.
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