The eyes are the windows to your soul.
As mentioned, men can use a variety of ways to attract subtle attention. In accordance with the rules of the mating dance, men can see these tactics to create interest and attract women. The real goal of male sexual body language is to induce a woman to look at him, to notice him, the rest is the responsibility of verbal dialogue. It doesn’t get a whole lot more extensive than that.
Once he has her eye, a man should use proper gaze patterns. Most men will make the mistake of smiling too quickly or smiling before she has even noticed him. Worse perhaps, is their grin will appear etched on their face which appears to women as gawking and is off-putting. Men should always limit gazing to three seconds or less, any longer than this comes off as staring or leering. To start, men should first try to establish eye contact, then once established, wait a fraction of a second then flash a quick smile before turning away shyly as if being busted with the hand in the cookie jar. If this feels uncomfortable, use what is called a “slow growing smile” where the smile is directed with eye contact and seems to grow in direct response to the woman.
Mutual gaze.
Men should always wait until eye contact is established before smiling. This tells the target that he is smiling at her rather than smiling generally, or smiling at someone in her direction, or just smiling because he’s heard someone say something funny. Eye contact is the most reliable way to anchor a smile. The effect men are trying to convey is that he has noticed her, got caught looking, but isn’t apologetic because he sincerely finds her attractive. Whenever men hold mutual eye contact followed by a smile they should hold it for at least two to three seconds before breaking it by looking downward. Men should never look to the side when finishing an eye gaze pattern, or break eye contact immediately once established, since it will indicate to a women that he was merely stealing a look, or was just caught staring. In either case, it sends the message that no interest was present, he was just scanning the room, or he’s already in a committed relationship and was checking another women out, but isn’t capable or willing to act on his eye language.
Once eye contact is broken for the first time, it is important for the man to immediately reestablish it, followed by even more powerful smile. If this second bout yields a smile in return there’s a good chance an approach will be welcomed. Women need some time to decide if attraction is present, just like men need time to isolate interesting targets from all other women present. This is why the first sequence rarely produces a smile, whereas the second is a much better possibility. If a smile happens on the first try, it tells us that she was thinking about him even before their first glance, which is also a strong signal.
I always thought that men should never look down when in eye-locks with a woman. Doesn’t looking down indicate submission?
Also, why should the man break the eye contact first? Doesn’t that signify lower status?
The man is scanning the room – he catches the eye of an attractive woman. After a second, he gives a smirk-like smile without displaying his teeth while still appearing harmless and holds the eye contact – the woman then should be the one to break the contact – preferably by looking down?
Yes it does indicate submission, but it also punctuated eye contact which is even more important that the dominance/submission dynamic. If you scan left to right, catch eye contact then look left or right, she thinks you are either stealing a look or just scanning the room. Stealing a look means that your head isn’t turned – think just eyes left or right and so you don’t want her to notice that you are interested i.e. shy or are in a committed relationship and want nothing further. So, in other words, you MUST look down. Now if she looks back and isn’t interested, she might not look away, and feel irritated and stare back in order to enter a dominant/dominant relationship with you. So now what? Ideally, yes, to your point, SHE looks down and submits so you don’t have to. Now you are on to something. Especially if she looks down while smiling, as I instructed men to do here. You are imitating her eye patterns because you want to send eye interest and this is normally a female method of soliciting attention. What is important is to not come across as creepy, stealing looks, or just scanning (disinterest). It’s complicated, and there are many moving parts, but eyes down shows submission because you got caught with your hand in the cookie jar, it’s your only options given all outcomes. You would hope that she would look down and smile, but if she doesn’t, you don’t want to try to dominant her and come off as a creep. Rather you want to show her you are coy, yet interested, and mysterious.
Thanks for your questions, please let me know if this has helped!