In dating men usually don’t approach unless they perceive some form of attraction. This makes women the senders of courtship signals and men the receivers. Dating and courtship is ultimately about testing the willingness of a particular man to invest in a particular woman, with the net result producing children and hence a family. Thus, at play are cues to our fitness, health, vigor, sexiness and attractiveness, which we evaluate as “spoils” which may be passed onto our children through our sexual partners.
Body language is a fundamental part of courtship. Keeping spoken words out of the courtship initiation process and therefore out of consciousness will save us plenty of grief that might result from being openly rejected, or perhaps even worse, negative feelings with having to reject. Using and reading nonverbal cues is therefore important in courtship, so pay particular attention to the signals covered next so you can judge interest yourself – without saying a word!
Some of the cues women use to attract attention include, smiling, touching, pouting, skirt hiking, leaning toward males, brushing up against a man with her breasts or body, tossing her hair, gazing such as lowering eyelids, raising and widening eyes, throwing quick glances, flipping or tossing the hair or giggling.