PART I – Women Use Sexual Courtship Signals To Manipulate Men – Women’s Later Sexual Signals Affects Outcome Of Courtship, Not Early Signals, Says Research
Christopher Philip

This is a lengthy article but well worth the read. Just in case, here is the synopsis.

Synopsis: Women lead men on for the first few minutes. The sexual courtship cues she puts out does nothing more than encourage him to continue “spilling the beans” – verbally. Even if the men where unappealing to the women, women still did not send out clear rejection signals. As it turns out, women chat happily and send out varying signals to keep the man’s interest. This gives women the time to assess the man. The only case when women pull back is when the men speak too much.

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In courtship, women initiated the conversation using various tactics but more importantly they also control the encounter through body language. “You can predict male behaviour from female behaviour but not the other way round,” says Grammer. A woman’s nod, for instance, kept a man talking.

Introduction

In the first 3 minutes she's providing sexual cues to goad men into talking.  Then she makes up her mind in the next 10 minutes.

In the first 3 minutes she’s providing sexual cues to goad men into talking. Then she makes up her mind in the next 10 minutes.

According to research by Karl Grammer and his colleagues in a paper published in Evolution and Human Behavior, it’s not the early nonverbal signals that matter, but the ones that follow.

Human courtship is well studied. While some believe that both sexes are identical in their behaviour and that women are controlled by their culture to be passive observers in the mating dance while men coaxed into being the aggressors, evolutionists think otherwise.

According to the non-evolutionary theory, male-dominated societies govern how men use power to solicit from women, and the women are left to defend their rights to choose. On the other hand, evolutionary theory holds that women carry a far greater reproductive investment requirement and therefore must carry tools that modulate male come-ons. I happen to believe this is so – we call these nonverbal sexual cues.

It has been shown empirically that women can display “come-on-effects” to solicit attention from nearby men. According to Moore in a study in 1985 it turns out women can “elicit a high number of male approaches allowing them to choose from a number of available men, or they may direct solicitations at a particular man.” The research produced a catalogue of 52 behaviours, and if enough of them were performed, it predicted that men should court. However, until this point, actual female interest hadn’t been assessed – only presumed. In other words, if a woman solicits approach through sexual cues, it was assumed that she was sexually interested. Simply put, no one bothered to ask.

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The researchers point out that “Women seem to be exquisitely familiar with what occurs during courtship. They can describe in detail how they and other women flirt and pick up men.” However, “Even quite successful men seem to have no idea what happens during flirtation.” Men aren’t exactly tuned in to the mating dance as one subject aptly put, “I just know it works out.” This is explained as one possible affect of female mastery of nonverbal behaviour. From early childhood, girls are much better on the verbal spectrum and use a plethora of nonverbal behaviour that we simply do not see in boys. Girls can be masterfully manipulative with simple cues. Dads in particular find a weakness in cues given off by their little girls.

Why Do Women Use NonVerbal Communication In Courtship?

One hypothesis advanced to tie the various known themes together in courtship is the assumption that women are masterful manipulators of men. Women need to elicit from men, their intensions, be it short term mating, or long term, his quality, temperament, ability, and desire to help raise children, his aggressiveness, passivity and so forth without getting herself in trouble or committing sexually. In other words, she has much to risk, especially when being approached by men much stronger than she.

Many reports have indicated that men deceive with status symbols whereas women use deception to enhance their physical appearance. Men also tend to favour short term, low-investment sex opportunities with women. This favours men who can detect opportunities to mate with women short term and for women to detect those men who are only seeking short term opportunities. Alas, both sexes sometimes prefer short term mating, but certain conditions must be met for each condition to be used. For example, physical attractiveness in men is one such condition that women seek much more heavily
in a short term encounter.

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