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<\/a>Cue<\/strong>: Short Grabber Handshake.<\/p>\nSynonym(s)<\/strong>: Finger Grabber Handshake.<\/p>\n Description<\/strong>: A handshake whereby only the fingers make it into the hand. Because the grip ends up short, the fingers are usually sandwiched together painfully.<\/p>\n In One Sentence<\/strong>: The finger grabber aims to cause pain and inflict dominance and aggression over others.<\/p>\n How To Use it<\/strong>: Use this handshake when you wish to intimidate other people. This can be useful in threatening competitors. This can be useful to set people straight when they are causing you problems or are encroaching on your territory. The handshake is best served to those you feel are not prepared to back up their stake of dominance over you.<\/p>\n Context<\/strong>: Business.<\/p>\n Verbal Translation<\/strong>: \u201cI\u2019m so insecure, but pretending to be dominant, that I\u2019m going to put you through the ringer by grabbing your finger tips and squishing up your fingers to cause you pain.\u201d<\/p>\n Variant<\/strong>: See Country Handshake (The)<\/a>, Cold Dead Wet Fish Handshake<\/a>, Double Gripper Politician Handshake or Double Hander (The)<\/a>, Short Grabber\/Finger Grabber Handshake<\/a>, Oddball Handshake<\/a>, Palm Up, Palm Down and Palm Even Handshakes, Stiff Arm And Thrust Forward Handshake<\/a>, Death Grip Handshake<\/a>, Wrench Forward Handshake<\/a>, Undershaker Handshake<\/a>, Wrist Hold Handshake<\/a>, Wrist Hold Handshake and Upper Arm Grip Handshake<\/a>, Limp Fish Handshake<\/a>, Teacup Handshake<\/a>, Arm Twister Handshake (The)<\/a>, Firm handshake<\/a>, Fist Bumping<\/a>.<\/p>\n Cue In Action<\/strong>: James was a routine pranker. The family reunion was no exception. It was widely known that one should avoid shaking hands with him as he frequently caused his cousins and nephews to squeal in pain by crushing their finger tips.<\/p>\n Meaning and\/or Motivation<\/strong>: Someone that grabs your fingers rather than your entire hand is trying to keep you at a distance and also put you in your place. Short grabbers are usually insecure but often try to hide this by coming off as dominant through the infliction of pain and the denial of proper, though measured, intimacy which the handshake is designed to create. If they add a crushing action in addition to the finger tip grab they are trying to send and even stronger message by displaying their physical power over you.<\/p>\n Crushing is used to put a bit of fear into their partners so as to dismiss the likelihood of any future challenge against them. In other words, the short grabber is messing around with the handshake on purpose and trying to put another person through the ringer, so to speak.<\/p>\n When the handshake comes up short by accident, rather than on purpose, the other person will let up and apply less pressure or readjust so as to do a proper handshake rather than cause undo pain.<\/p>\n If by chance, you accidentally grab the fingers of someone else, which can happen when men shake hands with women, you can vocally suggest doing the handshake over again. A simple \u201csorry, that didn\u2019t quite work, let\u2019s give it another go\u201d will suffice. This will show that you are concerned about starting off on the right foot and truly wish to set the proper tone for the relationship.<\/p>\n Cue Cluster<\/strong>: The finger tip grabber is usually insecure, but tries to come off as cocky and arrogant. He will be boisterous and overstep personal space boundaries. He will touch when it\u2019s inappropriate, slap a shoulder or ruffle hair. He is often a practical joker and tries to put people through their steps doing anything to make them feel uncomfortable.<\/p>\n Body Language Category<\/strong>: Anger body language, Arrogance or arrogant body language, Aggressive body language, Dominant body language, Hostile body language, Low confidence body language, Low confidence hand displays, Masked body language, Negative body language, Social touching.<\/p>\n Resources:<\/strong><\/p>\n Astr\u00f6m, J ; Thorell, L H ; Holmlund, U ; D’Elia, G. Handshaking, personality, and psychopathology in psychiatric patients, a reliability and correlational study. Perceptual and motor skills 1993, Vol.77(3 Pt 2): 1171-86.<\/p>\n Bohm. 1997. Effects of interpersonal touch, degree of justification, and sex of participant on compliance with a request. 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