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<\/a>Cue<\/strong>: Once Over (the)<\/p>\nSynonym(s)<\/strong>: Eye Assess, Undressing Her With His Eyes, Catty Eyes.<\/p>\n Description<\/strong>: A sexual or competitive eye pattern that follows the body over its entire form from the toes to the top of the head usually done by men on women (sexual interest) or by women on other women (competition – sexual). When men look women over, they will stop at the buttocks, breasts and face.<\/p>\n In One Sentence<\/strong>: The once over indicates a sexual interest or is meant to issue a combative challenge.<\/p>\n How To Use it<\/strong>: Men and women can both use the \u201conce over\u201d to signal to a partner that they find them appealing. Women should look men up and down pausing on the groin area or buttocks, shoulders and face. Eye contact should be made to anchor the message. A subtle lip lick will produce an unmistakable message. Men can also signal interest by making forays to the rest of the body. This should be done either covertly so as to create the impression of respect or, conversely, aggressively and with confidence to show high dominance in an unapologetic fashion. Mixing the two strategies will result in a poor impression \u2013 so choose one and use it wisely.<\/p>\n It should be noted that women generally, do not take well to the once over, at least at a conscious level. Subconsciously, women appreciate being desired. However, many times this is context specific. Being in a committed relationships can sometimes be a moral hindrance to being coveted, other times the once over \u201ccompliment\u201d must come from a desirable potential suitor.<\/p>\n Women can also challenge other women by gazing them in a \u201conce over\u201d fashion to tell them that they \u201chave problems.\u201d Looking askance and performing the once over tells other women that they are on their hit list.<\/p>\n If men wish to intimidate and assault women, they may use the \u201conce over\u201d to metaphorically \u201cundress them.\u201d No good results will come from an unwelcome eye pattern, so be warned.<\/p>\n Context<\/strong>: a) Dating b) General\/Business\/Social.<\/p>\n Verbal Translation<\/strong>: a) \u201cI\u2019m looking you all over from your head to your toes stopping at your assets to measuring my interest in you.\u201d [men on women and women on men] b) \u201cI\u2019m checking you out to see if you\u2019re hotter than me and are going to be one of my direct competitors in the sexual marketplace.\u201d [normally women on women]<\/p>\n Variant<\/strong>: Look under Eye Language (category) to see many ways the eyes convey hidden meaning.<\/p>\n Cue In Action<\/strong>: a) Dave and Mary carefully checked each other out over the course of the party so as to not appear overt and offensive. b) The new intern had arrived and Mary, the long time staff member knew full well that she would be trouble. Mary did the once-over on Katie and noticed that her skirt was too short and her cleavage was showing. Mary knew right away that they wouldn\u2019t get along and that she needed to make it known that the office wouldn\u2019t tolerate unprofessional attire.<\/p>\n Meaning and\/or Motivation<\/strong>: It has been shown that both men and women both check each other out sexually, but women are able to do so more discretely. Women are rarely caught looking men over due to their superior peripheral vision. Men have hunter eyes and focus intently on smaller areas than women making them easier to catch in the act.<\/p>\n When the once-over signals competitiveness it is usually done by women onto other women looking for a \u201ccat fight\u201d or looking to size other women up in the sexual marketplace. This is a little acknowledged fact. Women are usually terribly conscious of the attractiveness of the other women around them whether they admit it or not. New rivals appear as targets ripe for their judgment and assessment which usually occurs behind closed doors as gossip or subtle meanness. A new associate, particularly ones who are much younger and more attractive will be seen as a potential rival whom must be neutralized and brought up to speed with office norms.<\/p>\n Thus, the once over can be a measure of a woman\u2019s desire to maintain her rank in the female social order. When men perform the once over on women, it can be a sign that he is interested or at the very least verifying his interest.<\/p>\n Cue Cluster<\/strong>: This cue is a stand-alone cue and can happen independently of any other.<\/p>\n Body Language Category<\/strong>: Approach tell, Aggressive body language, Courtship display, Eye Language, Hostile body language, Indicators of sexual interest (IOsI), Intention movements, Liking, Micromessaging.<\/p>\n Resources:<\/strong><\/p>\n Abbey, A., and Melby, C. (1986). The effects of nonverbal cues on gender differences in perceptions of sexual intent. Sex Roles, 15, 283-298.<\/p>\n Argyle, Michael; Lefebvre, Luc; Cook, Mark 1974. The meaning of five patterns of gaze. European Journal of Social Psychology. 4(2): 125-136.<\/p>\n Argyle, M., & Cook, M. (1976). Gaze and mutual gaze. Cambridge, England: Cambridge University Press.<\/p>\n Aron, Arthur Reward, Motivation, and Emotion Systems Associated With Early-Stage Intense Romantic Love. Journal of neurophysiology 94.1 327-337.<\/p>\n Anderson, Uriah S. ; Perea, Elaine F. ; Vaughn Becker, D. ; Ackerman, Joshua M. ; Shapiro, Jenessa R. ; Neuberg, Steven L. ; Kenrick, Douglas T. I only have eyes for you: Ovulation redirects attention (but not memory) to attractive men. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology. 2010. 46(5): 804-808.<\/p>\n Abrahams, Matthewf. Perceiving flirtatious communication: An exploration of the perceptual dimensions underlying judgments of flirtatiousness. Journal of Sex Research. 1994. 31(4): 283-292.<\/p>\n Beall, Alec and Jessica L. Tracy. The Puzzling Attractiveness of Male Shame. Manuscript submitted to Evolutionary Psychology. www.epjournal.net \u2013 2014. 12(x): 1-39<\/p>\n Is Male Nonverbal Shame Attractive?<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n