Martin Dobrovodsky

You’re kissing your girlfriend deeply and passionately, when suddenly you wonder: how did kissing begin?  Okay, okay, that’s probably the last thing you’d be wondering at that moment … but maybe you’re wondering now.  Well, in How Did Sex Begin?, R. Brasch goes into some of the views about the origin of this very intimate show of affection.  It is thought to have begun way back when there were just unicellular organisms.  The sexual union of these organisms involved the linking of their “mouths” in order to exchange hereditary nuclei. 

(avoiding a kiss)

The practice in humans is traced back to primitive times, when mothers premasticated food in their mouths before transferring it to the mouths of their babies by means of a “kiss.” From here, kissing developed into a show of familial affection.  But it wasn’t until the sixth century – in what is now France, not surprisingly – that society accepted kissing as a way for adults to express their love and affection for one another (And the rest, as they say, is kiss-story).  A more recent theory about the purpose of kissing suggests that it is a way of gauging your partner’s fidelity.  For instance, if you notice that your girlfriend isn’t kissing you as passionately as she used to, you might suspect that she’s been locking lips with someone else.  Even more telling would be the taste of someone else on her lips.  As for the appeal of kissing, Brasch suggests that it has to do with the fact that, of all parts of the body, only the mouth is able to taste and feel at the same time.  Also, he says, it recalls the nourishment of suckling at a mother’s breast.

(puckering is a nonverbal kiss indicator)

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The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language

The Body Language Project is the culmination of a decade of personal research including a thorough review of over 60 primary scientific research journal articles. In dating and attraction, body language forms the perfect foundation. If you are only picking up on what is being said, you are missing more than half of the message. It is pinnacle that you understand the subconscious as it is often much more reliable than spoken words. Don’t miss the signals, and don’t be left wondering and guessing.

Christopher Philip

Power hungry cops often let their relative positions in society go to their head only to find out that their perceived strength only invited harm as a direct result of being met by challenge.  Police officers that fail to heed this warning will eventually come against a thug willing to test them, and it won’t end up pretty, either for the officer or the thug, whomever loses the struggle and if you ask me, a cop trying to make his job even harder than it needs to be is a total fool.  So having said this, neither party will win, but morally thugs won’t care, just taking the challenge is reward enough.  Here’s what I’m talking about.

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Novice undercover cops always give themselves away, even after dropping their uniforms for street clothes because they forget to drop their other nonverbal language as well; their body language.  Arms akimbo which is done by placing the arms on the hips and aiming the fingers forward toward the crotch is a dominant posture that draws attention to a man’s penis.  This is the giveaway for the undercover guy and has been noted as their cue to reading cops as reported by numerous criminals.  It’s always the way the guy walks and talks that gives the under-copper away.

Now what about the fully suited, gun in tote, and bullet proof vested guy?  Well, it’s the same message that says “I’m in charge her, I’ll take over, do what I say.”  In realty, cops need to be problem solvers, not problem creators or problem ‘exacerbaters’ and need to show less dominant challenging body language so as not to agitate potentially aggressive suspects.  They need to create calm and speak in quiet voices, only when permitting of course.  When someone crosses the threshold of sanity and decides physical force is what they choose to do, then all bets are off.  However up until this point, especially when handling a domestic dispute, they should drop arms akimbo as it is only those in authority that carry this posture and only rarely found in the general population.  Officers should also not block doorways by propping themselves up, especially when the homeowners are present.  This is a powerful territorial display and invites challenge and aggression.  Until they’ve laid charges, respect should be given to the territory of others.

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The following is a list of things that have been determined to be some of the worst you can do when attempting to pick someone up.

1. Approaching too closely
2. Bad breath
3. Bad hygiene
4. Bragging
5. Disproportionate laughter
6. Drunken antics
7. Excessive flattery
8. Smoking
9. Playing dumb
10. Poor eye contact
11. Shaking hands for too long
12. Staring too much
13. Talking on a cell phone.

THE 20 MOST EFFECTIVE WAYS TO IMPRESS A WOMAN

The following list represent the best ways to impress a woman as determined by 29 male and 27 female undergraduate students in a study by Buss in 1988.  Keep in mind when reading this list that these are ways that are perceived to be the best.  They are a matter of debate if you ask me.  Of course, it would not hurt your chances if you did all or even some of these things.

1. Displaying a good sense of humour
2. Acting sympathetic to her troubles
3. Keeping self well groomed
4. Making an effort to spend a lot of time with one woman
5. Offering to help her
6. Showering on a daily basis
7. Keeping physically fit and creating a healthy appearance
8. Exercising
9. Wearing attractive outfits
10. Washing hair everyday
11. Wearing stylish clothes
12. Going on a diet to improve figure
13. Smiling at women a lot
14. Giving encouraging glances to women
15. Bringing a woman to a nice restaurant
16. Participating in extracurricular activities to meet women
17. Touching women
18. Making up jokes to make women laugh
19. Expressing strong opinions

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The temperature of a normal, healthy human being is 37° C (98.4° F), but skin temperature is almost always lower than this and varies according to our emotional state. When we are anxious or afraid our temperature drops. If we are relaxed or sexually aroused, the temperature increases. During the intimate stages of a sexual encounter, a drop in body heat sends a message to our sexual partner who interprets it, usually correctly, as a lack of interest, dislike, unease or disapproval. People who are emotionally cold are also likely to be physically cold. When a man or woman is described as “hot stuff” or we speak of a “warm embrace” it may well be almost literally true.

As they become more passionate, the skin temperature of “hot people” really does get hot.  This is in turn read correctly by their partner as an elevation in mood and intimacy.  The hot tub therefore is a great way to artificially increase attraction via increased skin temperature.  A warm sunny day can have the very same effect.  Conversely, cold winter days can be a significant block in intimacy.  In these circumstances, try cuddling up next to a warm wood fireplace.

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1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance
2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
3. Believes that he or she is “special” and unique
4. Requires excessive admiration
5. Has a sense of entitlement
6. Is interpersonally exploitative
7. Lacks empathy
8. Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
9. Shows arrogant and haughty behaviors or attitudes

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“This book has been thoroughly thought out and depicts many body language signals that are commonly missed. By taking these forgotten signals into account, our interactions with people can be dramatically improved, and many opportunities will no longer be lost.”

Name: Andy N. Age: 18

Alias: “HandyAndy”  

Occupation: Student and book store employee.

Location: Los Angeles California, USA

Quote: “I love football and lifting weights. I’m interested in dating because it is a fun experience.”

“Wow I just finished the book. It was amazing! It was so much better than any other article or book I’ve ever read. The pictures were awesome, you did a great job of explaining things clearly and you covered every aspect of body language. I think anyone interested in learning about non verbal cues should buy this book, it’s totally worth it.

It uncovered clues I never thought existed such as her showing interest by touching and proximity. It’s honestly a great read, I really enjoyed it and I hope everyone knows about this book because there is nothing like it. Nothing!”

Name: Nathan S.     Age: 22

Alias: Kbell               Occupation: Animator

Location: Wilmington, Delaware

Quote: “As for the pick up, I have never had much success with women. I could talk to them but could never get past LJBF [Let's Just Be Friends]. I don’t know about being a MPUA [Master Pick Up Artist] but learning the skills I think is worthwhile.”

“I was very fortunate to get to read an early version of The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language. It’s targeted mainly at PUA’s [pick up artist's] yet I can see it being useful for others too. Especially those who want to depict male and female interactions during courtship or just trying to tell a visual story without words. Both parties will benefit immensely from this e-book, since it VISUALY shows some of the indicators of interest and disinterest, what different body poses mean, how to stand properly and a lot more. Eye movement and eye contact is covered in detail as well. One thing I was unaware of before the book, was proximity. Apparently the distance you are from someone indicates your interest. The book itself is somewhat short, yet it covers a great deal of territory. The length of the book, under 90 pages, is an advantage because it can be read through quickly for a refresher. Some of the info in the book is repeated for effect since it is so important it demands repetition. After reading this book you should be able to understand much more of what a person says, since body language is at least 50% of what is said. Are you equipped to understand it? ”

Name: Eric L.    Age: 28

Alias: Er!c L!ve  Occupation: Marketing

Location: Boston, MA, USA

Quote: “I agree that talking about body language in a social setting can make other’s feel self conscious. Your knowledge of body language is best left unsaid.”

I’ve researched body language online, but the information was all very general.  This e-book specifically caters to males and the dating game. It details the critical information males need to know in order to ensure their success with women: What to do, what not to do and how to read women.  The photos showing the social interactions between a man and a woman are on point.  I now have a better understanding of how to and how not to initially approach a woman in a social setting, how to and how not to stand next to a woman and haptic [touch] communication.  I plan on browsing through this e-book before each social gathering I attend, until I have it memorized.

Name: Garret M.     Age: 19

Alias: Trivial   Occupation: College student

Location: Moorpark, CA, USA

Quote: “I am very interested in body language after reading the definitive book of body language. After reading that book two months ago it has been hard not to notice everyone’s movements. Body language is needed to understand the full aspects of communication.  I believe the more understanding of body language the better I will succeed in life.”

If you want a book that is specifically made for PUA’s, then Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language by Christopher Philip is a must read. Body language has been said to be 80 percent of communication, which means reading this book will take your game to the next level. This book has tons of pictures so you can fully grasp the concept of body language. The combination of pictures and text makes the book more interesting and appealing. This book also has a great flow which makes it easy and fast to read.

Most body language books I have read have been more directed towards daily business life and public speaking and not directed towards social dynamics. This book teaches you what to do and not to do. It will show you signals that girls give that you would have never recognized before. It gives you descriptions on eye movements, body positioning, proximity, tone, building rapport and much more. And plus the two HB’s [Hot Babes] are an added bonus to look at while reading. This book is a must read!

Name: Andrew S    Age: 23

Alias: GravesRR7  

Occupation: Master’s student in sports medicine

Location: Greensboro, NC, USA

Quote: “I read, study, practice and do all of these things as an integral part of my life. I became interested in dating and pick-up after a long-term relationship of mine had ended. I thought that there MUST be an intellectual way to going about getting what I wanted in women. I am a very scientifically-based-in-thought person, and loved what the community had to offer on social dynamics and why and how they work.”

BLP taught me how to look for positive and negative body displays on a global level. Instead of only looking at body leaning, rocking, posture, and fidgeting (like many other books do), this book gave me an in-depth perspective on everything to look for from head to toe. Included are what a woman is doing with her fingers, toes, leg position, and blinking, as well as many gross observations on proximity and variations of eye contact. Heck! Even how she chews her food is covered.

I learned how the exchange of body language creates a ‘mating dance,’ which can be learned and played to gain the proper perspective of how women around you are feeling. This book shows you exactly how to create that dance and read the social situation correctly. It’s not just the postures a woman is in which dictate how she feels, it is how those are directed that matters. The book showed me how to distinguish which of the indicators of interest a woman is showing are directed toward you, instead of toward another man, saving me lots of time in meeting girls. I can now approach women who WANT me to approach them, and not waste time with those who are not interested or unavailable.

Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language takes an in-depth look at female body language and body reactions to social stimuli. Where the book separates itself from others of its kind is in the perspective of male body language and personality traits which have the power to provoke specific social reactions from women. The book gives detailed explanations, as well as extensive and amazingly accurate pictorial sections, of both male and female positive and negative body language. The photos are also placed in a social courtship setting adding to the realism. BLP showed me how to look at the body as a whole instead of looking at specific parts to assess interest. Mixed signals are also addressed, and decoded in the book, which allowed me to find the true underlying tone of the situation without paying undue attention to less significant gestures.

Overall, the book is unlike any other body language book I’ve read. There is a logical progression showing what to look for in a woman to determine her level of interest, how the level of her interest changes (positively or negatively), what can be read in her body language, how to display your own body language in a way which is non-threatening and attractive to women, and most importantly, the ‘mating dance,’ which is crucial to understand if one is to successfully use body language to gain the advantage. The pictures used to demonstrate body language are very realistic and are not dramatized for the purpose of show. They represent ‘the real thing,’ whereas many books only show exaggerated postures and are not practical in everyday life.

This book has given me a unique and deep understanding of the role of body language in the courtship interaction.

Name: Dirk L.   Age: 19

Alias: Nacrcist   

Location: Madrid, Spain

Occupation: Currently Traveling Europe

Quote: “I have always been interested in body language and I believe it is part of a door that has not really been opened and would love to be a pioneer in the field. I have lived in 7 countries and am fluent in 3 languages. I am interested in reading, photography, DJing, clubbing and off course SARGING! I got into the game after feeling sick of being the “best friend” and little by little have been putting the puzzle together.”

I recommend this book to anyone that wants to take his game to a new level. I can vouch for this book because soon after reading it, I have, on a personal level, boosted my ability to read anything from intricate body language indicators of interest to subtle things that I can improve in my posture. After reading Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language one clearly understands the importance of body language not only in the world of seduction and women but in all social interactions. This book will show you ways to appear relaxed and in control that can obviously help in a wide range of things from job interviews to getting people to listen to you. The science of the body is one that isn’t given the respect that it deservers, and this book is one that clearly explains this science with a descriptive writing style and awesome illustrative photographs. So gentlemen make your life a bit easier and pick this book up, and like me, you will see that not everything a woman says is coming out of her mouth.

Side: I really enjoyed the book I tried to look for some criticism and I honestly can’t. I read a book recently called “The Definitive Book of Body Language” but was barley as informative as your book and the girl in the pictures is really hot! haha Anyway I hope my review can help you guys out and I will defiantly spread the word about your book.

Name: Adam S.  Age: 20

Alias: Ace of Spades 

Location: London England

Occupation: Economics Student

Quote: “When I was a little kid growing up in Poland, an uncle of mine taught me a couple basic illusions. My interest in magic did not flourish until my brother bought me David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating program. I devoted myself to solving the mystery of attraction. I also finally realized my tricks’ potential during pickup. Although I now perform magic at a restaurant and tend to stay away from illusions in my sarges. Instead, I enjoy telling women what I’ve learned about them by reading their body language.”

Overall I was very pleased with The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language and have drawn a great deal of knowledge from it. The photographs offer an excellent help to the beginners and more advanced students alike and are a feature I have not yet seen in other books on body language.

I think of the book more as an encyclopedia than a book you read once and are forever done with. The neat structuring makes it easy to find the relevant paragraphs – and trust me, you will want to read sections of this book several times. While I have been both studying and applying body language for a while, the list of signals I am currently looking for have nearly doubled by reading this book. If you want to know how to communicate interest non-verbally, or better yet, to find out whether someone is interested in you, you have to read this book.

While it makes detailed and valid points on the basic body language of attraction, I hope Christopher will go on to develop more advanced topics such as proximity in a sequel. He obviously has a lot of knowledge on the field and I am happy he’s willing to share it with the world. Overall, I consider the Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language as must-read for not just aspiring pick-up artists, but men and women worldwide interested in non-verbal communication especially concerning male-female relationships.

Name: Bartlomiej N.  Age: 28

Alias: Polish Falcon   

Occupation: Software Developer

Location: Traveling all over the world

Quote: I’ve been in the [PUA] community for slightly more than a year, but I have gone from ugly nerd to reasonable player (okay, not a master yet, but good enough). I’ve changed looks, worked on my body language and I read a lot. I admit that being very tall and slender, I still have some body language issues that I am working on.

I have read a couple of books about body language. One thing that has annoyed me was how they all either had some sketchy illustrations or just one or two poor quality photos to go with the text. This is where Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language stands out. It actually gets two things very right – it describes the body language especially from the “boy meets a girl” perspective and does it in a very visual way (lots of photographs to go with the text). The author does a good job of explaining the meaning behind a lot of body poses and gestures and they are illustrated with shots of these poses in action. Although they are sometimes exaggerated, it makes it so much easier to read and so much more effective to remember them.

There is a certain number of very interesting points made in the book – I knew some of the tricks, but I did learn one or two new things and was really thrilled to field-test them in a club environment and see them work. All in all, this book won’t miraculously turn you into a ladies man or make you a walking scanner deciphering people’s thoughts based on their body language but it certainly will draw your attention to a couple of interesting details, which you might overlook otherwise – and this can sometimes make all the difference. Overall, it’s a good position to add to you arsenal in the gender war.

Name: Russell    Age: 19

Alias: “Hobbit”

Occupation: College student

Location: Hammond, L.A. U.S.A.

Quote: “I am a natural who found the community through a love of social psychology.  Being a natural I think I may have a different insight than many PUA’s since that is the case with almost everything else.”

Most normal people have a limited supply of money. This makes people unwilling to buy products they are unfamiliar with. Personally, I am no different than the rest. I am always skeptical of products which claim to be good, but have no guarantee. After reading through Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language, I can firmly say that it is a good buy for both men and women. There are many reasons why this E-book is the best I’ve read on the subject of body language. Of these reasons, three stand out in my mind: the focused content, illustrations, and the price.

When one aspires to get better at attracting the opposite sex, he or she quickly realizes that words are not enough. As the book explains, while you are verbally talking to the person one is attracted too, one’s body is also speaking. If the two messages do not match up, the person on the other end will pick this up on a subconscious level. When this discrepancy happens, the probability of success is drastically reduced. Of the many books of body language I have perused, this is the only one that focuses on the body language pertaining to attraction while, at the same time, giving the basics any new reader needs to know. This combination of broad and attraction-specific body language makes the content unique to any other book I’ve read. However, as the book suggests, dialogue can only communicate so much.

This fact caused the author to illustrate every point made with pictures and examples. Not only is the reader benefiting from the knowledge, but the reader can now see what it looks like first hand. With other body language books, the reader is left to find examples of what he read in the field. This book takes the extra step to make sure the reader understands why it happens and what it looks like. The latter is often overlooked in all other body language literature.

The final reason to buy the book is the price. What is the cost of being the most attractive individual possible? The cost of the book is justified because a person can read this book and immediately see differences in interactions with the opposite sex. The book outlines very basic things that any individual can do with little work to improve their success dramatically. After reading this book, one will save much more then just money from the drinks he did not have to buy to get the girl, he will also save time. He will no longer be the sap buying the girl drinks and will transform into the guy who gets drinks bought for him. These three reasons are why I recommend this book to everyone I know.

Name: Scott      Age: 34

Alias: “KarmaSutra”

Occupation: Filmmaker, Writer, Social Philosopher.

Location: Florida, USA

Quote: “Subtext is the language of Mastery. Less is more than a truism, it’s a mantra for those who wish to ascend to our highest potential. Learning subtext in it’s most basic form (Body Language) will awaken a new perspective and instruct us on when and where to communicate with complete decisiveness and quality of purpose. ”

Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language will teach you a reality altering skill. A skill which will hone your cognitive ability to read what someone is speaking physically, but more importantly, emotionally without them ever uttering a single word.

Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language is a science and explorative modality which can give fruitful insight into machinations, as yet, unspeakable. Once one is adept at reading sub-textual body talk, this awareness will

catapult your communicative capabilities and allow an insight into another person’s motives and agenda.

The e-book is one of the most poignant and articulate tools from which one can acquire the ability to read, damn near prophetically, that which someone is truly saying as opposed to the verbiage coming from behind their teeth. Subtlety and charm are another aspect of body language which will signal to everyone within your immediate proximity the infinite power of Presence. Breathing techniques, Mirroring, Posture, Balance and Symmetry are each lessons laid out in perfect order for you to learn and master. To become a master of your relationship persona it’s vital to understand what a woman is saying, especially when she doesn’t speak.

Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language will demonstrate with wonderful visual acuity, extremely detailed information regarding the varying body personalities and non-verbal languages between the sexes. You’ll be well schooled in addressing verbiage from her stance and what her intentions are, as each body part has been sliced apart and thoroughly explained. How to adjust mood with your own body language is another useful point which is also conveyed with photos and description.

The practicality and longstanding usefulness of this book are a great value and I wholeheartedly recommend it to my students. This book is not merely for those in “The Game” but will be of use for anyone who wishes to enlarge their perspective in every familial/societal/pseudo-sexual relationship.

I look forward to more of Christopher Philip’s work.

Name: Anwar J.       Age: 24

Alias: Juice 24

Occupation: Grocery Clerk

Location: Largo, Florida, USA

Quote: “I’m a simple man, I chose to study to be a PUA [pick-up-artist] because I wanted to understand women better and learn to not be so impressed by their sheer beauty.”

To start off with, I think Section 2 was very informative. After putting this to work in the field I’ve seen most of these cues mainly from my wingman being too forward or trying too hard to get a girls attention. I’ve notice that when you first start talking to women that they are already defensive. It’s like they are measuring you out, and the more comfortable they get, the more they will comply and get used to you being around. I have also used a defensive posture on some girls who get too close and it seems to send out the right signal, “Back away!”

In section 3 I thought the part where Dave is blocking all the exits from Scarlett was interesting. I have actually seen this happen myself, partially because my wingman doesn’t understand or know how to read body language yet. It’s a work in progress for him. I also found this true; that women will approach from the side or behind, because as a man I really don’t mind, but women in the field will usually approaching from the front. I’ve also seen the other signals. I’ve seen women fixing their blouse and pulling up their skirt [the skirt hike] right in my face. Others don’t give off signals at all, some change their posture and others gave me some good attention.

I found a lot of the touching captions in Section 4 mostly happen to me on the dance floor since I’m a well groomed dancer. Women seem to get comfortable with me and always send out these signals by touching my butt, my shoulder, or rubbing their fingers on my stomach. I also see the girls throughout a venue who send guys signals of disinterest, but they don’t see it like I do. They will cross their legs and yawn or checking the time. The best is when their friends take them away from you because your wingman can’t keep the obstacle’s [any other person interfering, usually a friend of the girl being picked up] attention. I’ve seen many of the defensive postures while working in the field. It’s amazing on how accurate this book is on covering that. Sometimes it’s hard to tell the IOI’s [indicators of interest] from the IOD’s [indicators of disinterest] but maybe I’m just reading into the postures too much. I’ve seen my wingman invade a girl’s personal space while he had his drink over his chest [defensive posture] and she had hers over her breast [indicating defensiveness]. In that case, she is only giving him her ear and not making eye contact in the interaction. The book gave me confidence to tell him what he was doing wrong.

I have a lot of experience with women mirroring my movements while I’m dancing and talking to them like in Section 5. This is about 95% accurate in predicting interest and for some reason when I see this or notice it happening around me, I keep thinking of animal planet. But that’s another story! I notice I get strong EC [eye contact] from a girl on the dance floor, it almost seems seductive, and this section was very accurate in showing this females interest. I’ve experienced having legs crossed towards me, the head tilt while on the dance floor, and women exposing their neck, especially when I’m behind them. I haven’t yet seen “the pigeon toe” or “the pointing toe” but it’s probably been there in front of my face all along but I was too stupid to notice. I’ve also noticed hair tossing and women playing with their hair which is crazy to see because you know you have sparked their interest. I’ve seen little of neck touching and that’s probably my fault for not noticing. A lot of Section 5 I haven’t seen for myself yet. I think most of this would happen when you’re trying to build comfort with a woman and see the signals as they happen. I’ve had “the pat” while embracing in the last week, so I’ll conclude by saying that that section was very accurate.

Christopher Philip did a great job on describing the dynamics of body language. Overall, the ebook Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language was a great help and I recommend it to anyone reading this right now. Body language is 90% of the game, if you don’t know it…you’re gonna blow it.

I’m excited to be the one to share this wonderful tool with you! The ability to read body language will be useful to you for the rest of your life and is definitely not something you will pass over or forget. Body language occurs continuously and in every social situation making it ubiquitous. When a student of body language gets their first dose of knowledge it is very exhilarating. It opens up a whole new world, one that was always there, but otherwise deeply buried in our minds. With a thorough understanding of body language, you will be able to read people from a distance without needing to hear the words they speak. Suddenly, the language of the body will become more transparent and obvious, and those who understand it are given a huge advantage over the rest.

Anyone into the dating scene knows how hard it is to read women. After reading through this book and studying the photographs, it won’t be a mystery any longer. Without these key bits of information, you cannot have a well rounded understanding of dating. The book illustrates over 250 single items of body language such as when a woman likes and dislikes an approach, when a woman is ready to kiss, when a woman is trying to block you out, when she is bored or aroused, and practically every other gesture a woman might impart. Also covered extensively are tips to bring a woman closer through your own body language, entering her intimate space, and ways that you can display status and act so as to arouse women. This guide is perfect for both men and women interested in not only learning more about each other, but also in attracting one another. Body language allows people to use subtle hints to convey interest or disinterest instead of having to resort to overt and possibly embarrassing tactics. This book represents the perfect foundation to dating and attraction, and without it you cannot fully master the art of seduction.

The true aim of this book is to bring to consciousness the intuition that is already present and at the same time increase its efficiency. Nonverbal expressions of liking, disliking, superiority, timidity, fear, and so on are firmly rooted in human biology. Body language is therefore innate. It is not learned, and for the most part, not cultural. This makes it a very useful tool in dating and attraction as it provides us with quantifiable postures and positions that have actual meaning. While some cues may become compounded or confused with others, the whole picture makes it obvious what someone is really thinking.

By understanding body language you can also avoid potentially embarrassing situations. Speaking is a risky business in dating and also in life in general. This is especially true when you don’t know what emotional ground others stand on. Body language outlines where you are in a relationship such as what level of attraction or rejection is present at any one time and eliminates all the guesswork involved in reading women. The information in this book will make it easy to determine which women are available. Body language experts will know when it is a waste of time to further a pursuit and when it is time to hang in for the long haul.

Even though men might believe that they have the upper hand in the initial stages of a relationship, they really do not. Women have a keen ability to fool men into thinking that they have the advantage early on, but in reality, women are able to control men with the use of nonverbal communication (whether or not they are actually aware of this fact is not relevant). Women use nonverbal language to send a strong signal of sexual interest, or as the case may be, disinterest.

Guys, myself included, are often hesitant to approach women. This is for good reason. We all want to maintain what little confidence we have. Approaching women is a risk-laden action and the last thing anyone wants is to face rejection. Thankfully, women impart their level of interest with very specific cues and this saves men from approaching disinterested women and can even save them the embarrassment resulting from displaying interest in them at all. Women use body language as a signal to men that an approach is welcome or unwelcome. Whether or not a man sees these cues and acknowledges them is a different story altogether.

The skills in this book represent some of the most important you will ever obtain in the pursuit of women (or men, as the case may be). Your skills will not appear overnight though. It will take time and experience to turn your eye into a highly developed reader of body language. However, with practice will come great rewards. For example, you will know if a woman is interested in getting to know you better, and on which level. You will know if she wants to kiss you, or whether she simply wants you to go away.

Ultimately dating and courtship is a way for a woman to test a man’s desire to invest in her. A woman doesn’t normally give off cues that are obvious simply because she hasn’t yet decided for certain if you are of interest to her. A woman will normally draw out courtship in order to solidify the bond between herself and a man. The more time a man spends on the chase, she thinks, the more time he will spend raising her children. Thus, for the most part, the more she runs, the better off she will be. This is why we often see mixed and confounded signals which can be particularly frustrating if you are not aware of their purpose.

The next time you are in a social setting, have a look around and really bring to consciousness what is going on. Some couples will no doubt be close together, while others will have a few paces between them. Others yet will be practically on top of each other. What does this proximity mean? Even deeper than this runs the gestures they make toward one another. Some researchers will tell you that body language is a more accurate indication of someone’s thoughts than what actually comes from their mouths since body language comes from the subconscious whereas our spoken words come from our consciousness. Our conscious mind is able to plan and manipulate and is hence deceitful. If you are following along, you are also putting two and two together. As you learn about body language you are moving it from your subconscious mind to your conscious mind, meaning you can now plan your body language and use it however you see fit.

Ignoring specific cues given off by the opposite sex is a sure way to embarrassment. Reading women incorrectly is fairly easy if you do not catalogue all cues they give off. Some researchers put the level of nonverbal communication as high as 80 percent of all communication. More reasonably it could be at around 50-65 percent. That’s exactly what Mehrabian discovered in his communication study. He found that only 7 percent of communication comes from spoken words, 38 percent is from the tone of the voice, and 55 percent comes from body language. Thus, if you aren’t conscious of what is happening nonverbally, you are missing out on the vast majority of what is going on during a typical conversation. No doubt, you could easily get away without the conscious ability to read others’ body language, however, why ignore such a powerful tool when it is so easy to master?

Throughout the book, I realize that I speak mainly in terms of what I find useful as a man with respect to reading women, but that is only because I show my true bias. The tools contained within, however, are still very useful and practical for women. By knowing the meanings of the cues, women can better control the outcomes of specific situations. If, for example, a woman really enjoys the company of a particular man and wants to push the relationship forward, she should know the proper signals by which to make this happen. On the other hand, if a woman is disinterested or finds herself in a situation where an advance is unwanted, she will be armed with the knowledge of what cues to deliver to thwart the advance. A woman who is perhaps careless with her gestures, may give off particularly confusing cues to a man. A confused man is never a good thing! If he is interested in you, then more often than not, he will continue to pursue. With the knowledge of nonverbal communication, women can give specific and accurate cues to others.

Another useful way to appreciate how body language works and to make it appear more logical in our minds is to picture specific body language poses as they would appear if the person were nude. This is especially important since the cues have evolved under these circumstances. For example, take legs crossed versus uncrossed. How would legs spread wide open appear on a woman? How about on a man? What about a person with their legs uncrossed with their hands up behind their head slouched down in a chair? This would most certainly come across as a dominant and an in-your-face kind of posture. Now imagine this very same posture coming from an arrogant boss if he was completely nude with his genitals fully exposed! While our clothing masks some of the offensiveness of these postures, the meaning is still relevant.

A bit of caution is in order here. Keep the information in this book to yourself. The first rule of body language is: don’t talk about body language! This type of thing is better left unsaid. I made the mistake of telling a bunch of intoxicated people that I was doing some reading on body language. Everyone immediately stopped talking and they sat in silence doing nothing. They knew that I could read them but they did not want to be read. They wanted to keep their thoughts and emotions to themselves.

And finally, reading body language is not magic, it’s science. It’s not exact, but it is pretty close. It is very likely the best tool that exists for accurately reading people, even more accurate than outright asking them their thoughts. It is well known that people tend to lie. We lie for various reasons, be it to avoid offending someone, to avoid the hurt of rejection, or simply because we have not yet brought our true feelings to consciousness. I hope you have as much fun reading this book as I have had writing it and I do hope you will tell your friends goods things about the sections to follow and help The Body Language Project grow so that we can bring you future publications and resources! We welcome any positive experiences you’ve had with body language as a result of the information contained in this book, so feel free to send us an e-mail anytime!

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